A realtionship always starts with becoming friends and the best way to do it is by having good conversation. Getting to know each other will help you become closer. However, conversation may become boring when it becomes repetitive.
The things you talk about are all the same and are becoming too serious. Sometimes, instead of becoming closer, you suddenly feel exhausted and before you knew it, it’s over. So how do you keep it going, how do you keep the conversation alive? It’s not the topic or what you talk about but how you converse with the person that will make them wanna talk to you more. Here are some simple tips that may help.
1. Keep it light and act naturally. You have to draw the person into through your stories and conversation. But that does not mean you have to act out or pretend to be aomwthing you’re not or to make up stories that you’ve not experienced or done yourself.
You have to be honest always and natural. Otherwise you will sound so rehearsed. Pay attention to how you speak with people and how that person speakd to you. That is a good start.
2. Different topics every time. Sometimes repititive conversations becomes a bore. Make sure you know and remember what you’ve already told them. Avoid also repeating their words when you make a reply. If you do that, it’ll ruin it all. Echoing the other persons words will at times means you uninterrested to listen or you’re half conscious of the persons conversation. a total turn off.
3. Put some emotions into it. Pay attention when they talk, a good listener indicates you really want to hear more about what they say. Look at their facial expressions, responses and body movements. Movements shows how the people feel toward, it they are averted and keeps shifting position, they may be uneasy and uncomfortable. However if they are so drawn, then that is definitely something. It is also important that you maintain eye contact when talking. It shows sincerity.
There is really no specific rule as to how to do it. You just got to be your self all through each conversation. Don’t be too serious with your questions, depends on the time and day. If the peron is cracking some joke then go with it and enjoy the laugh, if things are becoming deep or a bit more sensitive then that is also the time maybe when you can be serious.
It’s not only how you converse or what you are and say, people like people who are natural and are just themselves.
